Moving Forward

Because the spring-like legs and powerful tail of kangaroos form a kind of tripod for balance and great forward motion, they cannot really move backwards. The males can shuffle or take small hops backwards when they are fighting, and Tree Kangaroos are able to move...

Amygdala Hijack

God designed our brains with amazing capabilities. One of which involves the amygdala. This almond sized structure found near the base of our brain helps us respond to life threatening situations. It activates a sudden flight or fight response that overrides time...

The Rest of The Interview about More than Meh

Here is the second half of my interview about Luke 9:51-62 and my new book More than Meh. Thank you to Mark Kjenstad at St. Andrew Lutheran Church in Middleton, WI, for interviewing me, editing the episode, and publishing it. You can listen to PART TWO here at the...

What Chinese Christians Teach Me about the Kingdom

There are many things I love about my Chinese brothers and sisters in Christ. One of them is how they speak the word “brothers.” In standard Chinese usage, the word for brother is “xiongdi” (pronounced kind of like “sheeyong-dee”). It’s actually two words mashed...

The Interview about More than Meh

I had the privilege of being interviewed about Luke 9:51-62 and my new book More than Meh. Thank you to Mark Kjenstad at St. Andrew Lutheran Church in Middleton, WI, for interviewing me, editing the episode, and publishing it. You can listen to part one here at the...

Getting Unplugged

In the 90s, several famous musicians performed “unplugged” concerts. Instead of huge auditoriums, sardined-packed with fans and vibrating to the boom of massive speakers, smaller groups snuggled around tiny MTV stages to hear the likes of Mariah Carey, 10,000 Maniacs,...

Written in RED

When they had crucified Jesus, they divided up his clothes by casting lots. And sitting down, they kept watch over him there. Above his head they placed the written charge against him: this is Jesus, the King of the Jews” (Matthew 27:35–37 NIV). I could tell it was a...

Get Your Copy of More than Meh Today!

Order your copy at Amazon.com. Here are a few more endorsements: This book captivated me by calling out the “meh” areas in my life and boldly leading me to Scripture—the true source of transformation. Professor Doebler made me laugh, kneel, and rejoice in Christian...

More than Meh Dropped Today!

Order your copy at Amazon.com. Here are a few more endorsements: Although we might say that Jesus is the most important person in our lives, sometimes our faith can feel, well, “meh.” With raw honesty and his disarming sense of humor, Matt helps us identify where and...

Episode 15: The Gospel and Compassion | Bill Meier

Episode 15 of Jesus and Jetlag features Bill Meier, President and CEO of Kingdom Workers, a global Christian non-profit organization. This episode delves into the concept of holistic gospel ministry, emphasizing the integration of gospel proclamation and compassionate...

Four Days until Book Launch!

My book launches in four days. You can preorder the Kindle version on Amazon.com or purchase the paperback on Friday at the same place. Here’s another endorsement: If you have ever cared about someone drifting from their faith or struggling to move forward on their...

Countdown to Launch for “More than Meh”

Hey friends, my new book More than Meh should release later next week. Take a look at these endorsements from some of my good friends and colleagues: “Jesus offers us so much more than meh.” Indeed he does, and Matt’s book explains why and empowers you with some...

What Do Gospel-Centered Mentors Model?

In my forthcoming book, Gospel-Centered Mentoring, I encourage readers to prepare themselves for mentoring by becoming gospel-centered models. I write: As we fill up with the gospel for ourselves through regular time with God’s Word privately, with a few brothers or...

Care for the Body

In this impactful article, Shawn addresses physical resiliency for public gospel workers because this realm of following Christ seems to be a particular challenge for that vocation in many situations. However, his words are extremely useful for everyone. They also...

Remember Your Exalted Status!

Do your mentees truly understand their exalted status before God? How often do you remind them who they are? The biggest voices in Western culture continually tell us who they think we are: “You are special; you are unique; you can do anything you put your mind to.”...

Personal Tolerance

In engineering design, tolerance refers to the acceptable limits of varying size while still ensuring proper function, fit, and performance. For example, a specific part for a machine may be designed for a length of 10 mm. But the acceptable tolerance may be anywhere...

Change Your Tools, Change Your Life

I was intrigued by the following article written by my son, Sam, on his blog Dreaming Dragonslayer. I think mentors will find it useful for helping mentees not only talk about making changes, especially in areas plagued by automatic habits, but taking the important...

The Power of Small

Personal change doesn’t have to be overwhelming. In fact, the formula is beautifully simple: Small Deposits + Time = Incredible Results Here’s a thought-provoking illustration: If you had the choice between receiving $1 million today or a penny that doubles every day...

A Hand on Your Shoulder

We had just moved to a large Asian city, our second in three years, and we were frazzled. It was our second time setting up house; our second time going through culture shock; our second time saying goodbye to cherished friends and favorite places. I thought I would...

Corrected – The Power of Groups

I apologize to our listeners: the previous podcast episode was labeled “the Power of Groups” but the actual topic was “How to Have Healthy Conflict.” That episode has been corrected. This is the actual message entitled “the Power of Groups.” Thanks for your...

The Danger of “Later”

"Later" might be one of the most dangerous words in the English language. I’ve been working on a bathroom remodel project at home for over a year now. Coming from a construction family, it’s embarrassing how long it’s taking me to finish. I like to think I’m...

Certainty in Uncertainty

The following devotion was written by Professor William Zhu, my colleague at Asia Lutheran Seminary. It felt very appropriate for our times. I hope it is as comforting to you as it was to me. Isaiah 6:1 In the year that King Uzziah died I saw the Lord sitting upon a...

The Power of Groups

In gospel-centered mentoring, we aim to help mentees become wholehearted followers of Jesus in four different realms: the spiritual, physical, emotional, and social/vocational. Generally, it seems the most difficult realm to address is the emotional. One reason for...

Self-Care Isn’t Selfish

Personal growth can sometimes feel selfish. Why invest so much time and money into spiritual disciplines, professional growth, eating healthy, exercising, or being coached? I have work to do, bills to pay, and a house full of people who depend on me. How can I justify...

Love for the Lonely

In gospel-centered mentoring, we aim to help mentees become wholehearted followers of Jesus in four different realms: the spiritual, physical, emotional, and social/vocational. Generally, it seems the most difficult realm to address is the emotional. One reason for...

Developing a Growth Mindset

My first job, apart from babysitting, was working at Burger King--which is known as Hungry Jack’s here in Commonwealth nations. (Burgers might be distasteful to the monarchy?) For a “whopping” $2.20 per hour, I learned to run the broilers, work drive-through, and make...

Five Action Steps to Prevent Suicide

In gospel-centered mentoring, we aim to help mentees become wholehearted followers of Jesus in four different realms: the spiritual, physical, emotional, and social/vocational. Generally, it seems the most difficult realm to address is the emotional. One reason for...

Read the Introduction to My New Book

It’s finally coming together! My next book! I posted a first draft of the intro ages ago, but with oodles of rewrites and input from great friends, it’s ready for a draft 2.0 repost. Enjoy! And feel free to send me feedback. I wanted to be Spiderman. But my sensible...

When is the Right Time?

I have yet to meet a called worker who does not recognize the importance of caring for their soul, mind, and body. However, I have met many who struggle to intentionally invest time in nurturing these essential areas. The list of excuses is long. So what gives? One...

The Dos and Don’ts of Mental Health Disorders

In gospel-centered mentoring, we aim to help mentees become wholehearted followers of Jesus in four different realms: the spiritual, physical, emotional, and social/vocational. Generally, it seems the most difficult realm to address is the emotional. One reason for...

Establishing Personal Boundaries

One of the best ways to maintain our three-legged stool—our spiritual, emotional, and physical well-being—is by establishing personal boundaries. Saying “yes” to something always means saying “no” to something else. Too often, our “no” ends up resulting in neglecting...

Life after Trauma

In gospel-centered mentoring, we aim to help mentees become wholehearted followers of Jesus in four different realms: the spiritual, physical, emotional, and social/vocational. Generally, it seems the most difficult realm to address is the emotional. One reason for...

Simplify Your Questions!

All organizations and movements adopt “insider language” throughout their lifespan. It’s part of human nature to create shortcuts for the sake of proficiency and/or the comfortable feeling that we are part of something bigger than ourselves. Modern coaching and...

(Mis)understanding Mental Health, Part 2

In gospel-centered mentoring, we aim to help mentees become wholehearted followers of Jesus in four different realms: the spiritual, physical, emotional, and social/vocational. Generally, it seems the most difficult realm to address is the emotional. One reason for...

Being Coached Is So Valuable to Me

One thing about being married to a missionary is that I get opportunities after big moves to reevaluate my gifts, see the new situations that God has graciously laid before me, and take an exciting step into something new. After recently moving to Africa, coaching was...

(Mis)understanding Mental Health, Part 1

In gospel-centered mentoring, we aim to help mentees become wholehearted followers of Jesus in four different realms: the spiritual, physical, emotional, and social/vocational. Generally, it seems the most difficult realm to address is the emotional. One reason for...

Your -Tions

Two practical skills that can optimize your life and ministry are organization and communication. Both can be improved with focus and intentional effort. Growth in these areas will reduce stress, improve relationships, and boost productivity. Take a moment to reflect...

Thirty-Minute Mentor, Part 3

Welcome to our three-part series introducing a simple gospel-centered mentoring method that can be used to give inquisitive Christians a powerful taste of the blessings of mentoring. You will find Part 1 here. A little Preparation As mentioned above, Step 2 of the...

The Thirty-Minute Mentor, Part 2

Welcome to our three-part series introducing a simple gospel-centered mentoring method that can be used to give inquisitive Christians a powerful taste of the blessings of mentoring. You will find Part 1 here. Step 3: Prayer Once you have listened to the mentee’s...

The Thirty-Minute Mentor, Part 1

Welcome to our three-part series introducing a simple gospel-centered mentoring method that can be used to give inquisitive Christians a powerful taste of the blessings of mentoring. I believe that the most effective gospel-centered mentoring develops through training...

Gradually, Then Suddenly

In The Sun Also Rises, Ernest Hemingway captures a universal truth about decline. One character asks, “How did you go bankrupt?” The other responds, “Two ways. Gradually, then suddenly.” This doesn’t just happen with bank accounts—it also can happen with our...

You Will NOT Be Left Behind!

When our children attended Texas public schools in the aughts, we were introduced to the “No Child Left Behind” program. The state government was committed to doing whatever it took to ensure that every child succeeded in school. Some teachers jokingly (and a bit...

Beyond Passion

"Follow your passion." "Do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life." "The only way to do great work is to love what you do." These mantras are deeply embedded in modern career and life advice. They promise fulfillment through self-discovery and...

Go from Meh to Meaningful, Part 3

In this 3-part series, I will address the feelings of meh, or spiritual blah, that mentors and mentees encounter on the path toward becoming wholehearted followers of Christ who rest in Him fully and reflect Him faithfully. Through Luke 9:51-62, I will highlight some...

Go from Meh to Meaningful, Part 2

In this 3-part series, I will address the feelings of meh, or spiritual blah, that mentors and mentees encounter on the path toward becoming wholehearted followers of Christ who rest in Him fully and reflect Him faithfully. Through Luke 9:51-62, I will highlight some...

Go from Meh to Meaningful, Part 1

In this 3-part series, I will address the feelings of meh, or spiritual blah, that mentors and mentees encounter on the path toward becoming wholehearted followers of Christ who rest in Him fully and reflect Him faithfully. Through Luke 9:51-62, I will highlight some...

The Benefits of Gospel-Centered Mentoring

Over my 50 years of public ministry, a mentor would have brought significant benefit. I, my family, and my ministry missed out, however, because I didn't have a mentor. I did have ministry brothers who were my go-to advisors, my encouragers, and my accountability...

Further Thoughts on God’s Will

In my forthcoming book, “Gospel-Centered Mentoring,” (and in this post and video) I address the somewhat sticky topic of God’s will. I write: Many Christian mentors believe their job is to help mentees listen for the Holy Spirit’s unique vision, or destiny, for their...

A Gospel-Centered Approach to Bible Reading this Year

Daron is my professional coach and a gospel-centered, practical pastor. So, when he puts out an appeal to our church or coaching cohort, I take a second (and third and fourth) look, and I try my best to implement it when possible. His recent “5 Practical Questions to...

GCM Get to Know You Form

My wife, Christine, recently took on three new coaching clients, which has inspired us to update our “Get to Know You Form,” which mentors and coaches can send clients to fill out and return before their first session together. Such a tool helps build rapport so that...

Dragons on Christmas?

If you ask my kids what my favorite Christmas Bible passage is, they’ll probably say, “Revelation 12; you know, the one about the dragon.” However, I’ve yet to visit any Christmas service where Revelation 12 is read (besides one that I organized in Texas many years...

Taking Notes in a Mentor Session

Is it appropriate for a mentor to take notes during a mentor session, especially when mentees are sharing a lot of information?  It certainly can be.  Photo by Adolfo Félix on Unsplash Here are a few considerations for taking notes:  Note-taking can be distracting to...

Ask the Mentee Good Questions, Part 2

Ask Reframing Questions If mentees feel stuck at any time during the discussion, help them get unstuck by looking at the issue from various angles through reframing questions.  Think of reframing questions like this:  why does the Bible have four gospels that...

Ask the Mentee Good Questions, Part 1

As you listen to mentees during this phase, you will unearth many issues that seem important to their development.  But how do you follow up on these issues and encourage them to explore what will lead toward developing goals and action steps for growth?  You do this...

Listen Well by Listening Carefully

See the previous article for part 1 of Listening Well. Now, as you begin to listen well, you might want to know, “What exactly am I listening for as the mentee shares?”  The Mentee’s Own Discernment or Insights Remember that the Holy Spirit has been working in...

Listen Well by Listening Actively

In the movie Inside Out, the feelings of a little girl, Riley, are personified as different characters.  For example, there is “Joy,” “Sadness,” “Anger,” and “Disgust.”  The movie mostly takes place in her mind, as we see Joy, Sadness, Anger, and Disgust interacting...

Help the Mentee Determine What to Work on

As two devastated disciples plodded toward Emmaus along the dusty road, a stranger approached and walked beside them.  He plied them with questions:  “What are you discussing together as you walk along?”  When they related that they were discussing recent events in...

Mentoring and Coaching People through Their Strengths

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalm 139:13-14a. Our Creator intricately and intentionally wove together every detail of your mentees’ beings.  They are blessed with...

Deal with Mentees’ Discouragement about Progress

When mentees are discouraged about lack of progress on a goal or action step, remind them first that these plans are not laws from God.  Mentees have not sinned just because they did not complete their action steps last week.  Be careful of giving the appearance of...

Review the Mentee’s Progress

Many people believe the old American proverb:  “practice makes perfect.”  In other words, if you practice a skill long enough (e.g., learning to play the piano), you will eventually perfect that skill.   However, this proverb is partially incorrect.  Here is the...

How to Make the Most of Accidental Mentors

My back is sore.   My knee aches.   And I’m tired.   I stare at my row machine, barbell, and bench.   I don’t want to lift.   Maybe I should go clean the toilets? Or how about getting a head start on my taxes? Anything but another backbreaking WOD (Workout of the...

Watch Your Life and Doctrine Closely 2 of 2

You’ll find Part 1 of this brief essay here. The follow-up question might be, “Well, what does Paul mean by “with regard to yourself”? It only makes sense that he would be thinking back to his list of qualities for the overseer which he already gave in Chapter 3 of...

Watch Your Life and Doctrine Closely 1 of 2

When instructing Timothy about how to conduct himself as a young pastor, Paul wrote, “Watch your life and doctrine closely. Persevere in them, because if you do, you will save both yourself and your hearers” (1 Timothy 4:16 (NIV)). The definition of the word “watch,”...

18 Send the Mentee out with God’s Power

In these 18 brief videos we introduce you to the basics of Gospel-Centered Mentoring by explaining: 1) what Gospel-Centered mentoring is (7 videos) 2) how to prepare yourself and your mentee for the mentoring relationship (2 videos) and 3) how to facilitate a mentor...

17 Help the Mentee Craft a Plan, Part 2

In these 18 brief videos we introduce you to the basics of Gospel-Centered Mentoring by explaining: 1) what Gospel-Centered mentoring is (7 videos) 2) how to prepare yourself and your mentee for the mentoring relationship (2 videos) and 3) how to facilitate a mentor...

16 Help the Mentee Craft a Plan, Part 1

In these 18 brief videos we introduce you to the basics of Gospel-Centered Mentoring by explaining: 1) what Gospel-Centered mentoring is (7 videos) 2) how to prepare yourself and your mentee for the mentoring relationship (2 videos) and 3) how to facilitate a mentor...

15 Ask the Mentee Good Questions

In these 18 brief videos we introduce you to the basics of Gospel-Centered Mentoring by explaining: 1) what Gospel-Centered mentoring is (7 videos) 2) how to prepare yourself and your mentee for the mentoring relationship (2 videos) and 3) how to facilitate a mentor...

14 Listening Well to the Mentee

In these 18 brief videos we introduce you to the basics of Gospel-Centered Mentoring by explaining: 1) what Gospel-Centered mentoring is (7 videos) 2) how to prepare yourself and your mentee for the mentoring relationship (2 videos) and 3) how to facilitate a mentor...

13 Review the Mentee’s Progress

In these 18 brief videos we introduce you to the basics of Gospel-Centered Mentoring by explaining: 1) what Gospel-Centered mentoring is (7 videos) 2) how to prepare yourself and your mentee for the mentoring relationship (2 videos) and 3) how to facilitate a mentor...

Follow the Arrow Lady!

Because Koalas are reclusive, it’s a rare treat to glimpse one in the wild.  They also sleep up to 20 hours per day, usually tucked high up in the crook of a tree branch.  So, it’s quite difficult to spot them even when they are around. When we first arrived in...

12 Stand in for Christ

In these 18 brief videos we introduce you to the basics of Gospel-Centered Mentoring by explaining: 1) what Gospel-Centered mentoring is (7 videos) 2) how to prepare yourself and your mentee for the mentoring relationship (2 videos) and 3) how to facilitate a mentor...

11 Fill up the Mentee with Encouragement

In these 18 brief videos we introduce you to the basics of Gospel-Centered Mentoring by explaining: 1) what Gospel-Centered mentoring is (7 videos) 2) how to prepare yourself and your mentee for the mentoring relationship (2 videos) and 3) how to facilitate a mentor...

Stand in for Christ in the Mentor Session

Sainted professor John Jeske liked to tell the story of a little boy who feared the dark.  Every night, he woke up in a panic and cried out for his parents.  Mom would rush in to soothe him and assure him that he was safe because God was there with him.  Finally, one...

10 Prepare for the Mentor Session

In these 18 brief videos we introduce you to the basics of Gospel-Centered Mentoring by explaining: 1) what Gospel-Centered mentoring is (7 videos) 2) how to prepare yourself and your mentee for the mentoring relationship (2 videos) and 3) how to facilitate a mentor...

09 Nurture a Meaningful Relationship with the Mentee

In these 18 brief videos we introduce you to the basics of Gospel-Centered Mentoring by explaining: 1) what Gospel-Centered mentoring is (7 videos) 2) how to prepare yourself and your mentee for the mentoring relationship (2 videos) and 3) how to facilitate a mentor...

Goodbyes and G’days

Goodbyes We left Chiang Mai on June 10, bound for the UK wedding of our daughter Maddie to Ashley Garfitt.  Chiang Mai was a wonderful home for us: a friendly and affordable city that welcomed our ministry teams, along with friends that became like family through the...

08 Prepare Yourself to Mentor

In these 18 brief videos we introduce you to the basics of Gospel-Centered Mentoring by explaining: 1) what Gospel-Centered mentoring is (7 videos) 2) how to prepare yourself and your mentee for the mentoring relationship (2 videos) and 3) how to facilitate a mentor...

07 The Realms of Gospel-Centered Mentoring

In these 18 brief videos we introduce you to the basics of Gospel-Centered Mentoring by explaining: 1) what Gospel-Centered mentoring is (7 videos) 2) how to prepare yourself and your mentee for the mentoring relationship (2 videos) and 3) how to facilitate a mentor...

Share a Devotional Thought in the Mentor Session

One important way to set a gospel-predominant tone for the mentor session is to share a devotional thought with the mentee.  There are a few ways to do this depending on the amount of time you have to prepare beforehand as well as your level of comfort with the...

06 GCM Principles 6 and 7

In these 18 brief videos we introduce you to the basics of Gospel-Centered Mentoring by explaining: 1) what Gospel-Centered mentoring is (7 videos) 2) how to prepare yourself and your mentee for the mentoring relationship (2 videos) and 3) how to facilitate a mentor...

05 GCM Principle 5

In these 18 brief videos we introduce you to the basics of Gospel-Centered Mentoring by explaining: 1) what Gospel-Centered mentoring is (7 videos) 2) how to prepare yourself and your mentee for the mentoring relationship (2 videos) and 3) how to facilitate a mentor...

Identity Issues for Pastors Part 2

Before the pandemic, I went in for a medical check-up.  It had been years.  You know—needles, peeing in a cup, prodding, jabbing—I had better things to do.  But it was time.  When you start your yearly check-ups at year 49, they upsell you on the Platinum Package—at...